This is from an amazing book of love stories the darling Kate once gave me for my birthday. And it its the truest thing I have ever read on love, ever:
We value love not because it’s stronger than death but because it’s weaker. Say what you want about love: death will finish it. You will not go on loving in the grave, not in any physical way that will at all resemble love as we know it on earth. The perishable nature of love is what gives love its importance in our lives. If it were endless, if it were on tap, love wouldn’t hit us the way it does.
And we certainly wouldn’t write about it.
– Jeffrey Eugenides.