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Say You’ve Missed Me and My Rants. Me Neither


However, lazy is as lazy does so here’s what the quite brilliant Clementine Ford posted on FB the other day and here’s me having it with a guy who should know better. Will be updated as responses come to hand…

Someone sent this to me last night. Done by Ryan Parsons at Black Throne Tattoo in Brisbane. Note the delightful hashtag, location and homophobia. If you check out the picture on Instagram, you can also find a lot of fucking morons defendin See More
Photo: Someone sent this to me last night. Done by Ryan Parsons at Black Throne Tattoo in Brisbane. Note the delightful hashtag, location and homophobia. If you check out the picture on Instagram, you can also find a lot of fucking morons defending it as satire even though they clearly have no fucking idea what satire actually is. 

I was sadly unsurprised to see someone defending Ryan Parsons as just the 'nicest, loveliest guy out there'. Oh, and apparently he adores his 'beautiful girlfriend and daughter'. So, good to know that he makes a distinction between women who deserve respect and women who don't.

 

  • Fahad [redacted]Yeah that’s just disgraceful and in very bad taste.
    Ironic however that I often see gay men depicting women in terrible situations and calling to cut them, burn them or kill them etc… Yet I’ve never seen a gay man told off for that kind of behaviour.
  • Me: Hmmm. I’ve never seen what you describe Fahad, but please do enlighten us with actual examples. Because you’ll find mostly that Clementine Ford and other writers on similar subjects post links to articles, things that actually happened and refer to statistics and verifiable facts. That’s what makes so much of this kind of debate so goddamn irritating; that the people calling out misogyny use facts and reason in their arguments. The ones opposing it fall back on anecdotal evidence, crying poor (#NotAllMen) and basically whinging. If it were tit-for-tat I could accept it. But it’s a bit like climate change. Here Are Facts and science vs Here Is Some Stuff We Think Because We Do. The only robust debate is coming from feminists (male and female). From the other side we’re basically getting “I know you are you said you are but what am I?” and some dick jokes. Let’s say, for argument’s sake that perhaps 5% of gay men did as you suggest above, or even 10% but I doubt it (and I’d like evidence please) – the very unscientific me would suggest that that percentage of straight men doing the same is higher than Rihanna on a school night. As always, I’m more than willing to be proved wrong. But with facts. And evidence. And statistics. So go for it.
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This Cat Says It All


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The World Cup, But Better


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These Are the Arguments We’re Dealing With FFS


As privately posted to journalist Clementine Ford after she wrote THIS article about an intellectually disabled woman forcibly having her armpits shaved, despite her objections FFS.

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Sexual Threats are Bad Arguments. Also: Fucked


Clementine Ford is My Spirit Animal. See here why she is basically amazing.

She, more than any other lady-journalist I know or am familiar with, puts up with the vile, disgusting, base, easy, big bowl of fuck that is men threatening rape etc just because she dares to write about this issue of misogyny and they disagree.

I’ve had those threats. So has every other female journo I know. Not always when I’ve written about lady-things, but certainly more often. A few years ago a male colleague of ours wrote an opinion piece about the shit female journalists receive as opposed to men. It started with a seemingly innocuous conversation when we were comparing the worst feedback we had had.

“You are a fat bitch”, “You are too ugly to rape” “You should be raped then maybe you’d shut up” etc etc.

He was shocked. When people disagreed with an opinion piece he’d written, he said, they called him Un-Australian, or a bleeding-heart liberal. Or stupid. The personal and sexual attacks floored him. So he wrote about it. We waited with baited breath. You know what? Nothing. Tumbleweed.

But if any of us had dared to write that in a daily newspaper, the vile comments would have flowed.

The men (and they are 99% male) who make these comments, who take time out of their lives to comment on the internet, to email us under aliases, to write letters abusing and threatening us. These are the men in your family, the ones you sit next to at work, the ones who come to your house for dinner, the nice guy that you just met.

It’s an uncomfortable truth but it is true. And it is unacceptable. It is unacceptable that a man may write an opinion piece on “women’s issues”, such as rape and possibly be told, probably reasonably politely, that he is wrong and women are horrible. If we do it, we “should be raped” or “just need a good hard dick”. These are but two of the comments I have had recently.

Attacking my gender, my appearance, threatening me with sexual violence instead of addressing the argument I have put forward is a cheap, easy and all too familiar trick. But every one of us female journos who especially write about ‘women’s issues’ brace ourselves for the shitty, threatening and offensive responses we will receive. And often think twice about writing them when you know what is in the post.

This is why women like Clementine Ford are my heroes. I know the kind of ‘feedback’ she’s getting, although I cannot comprehend the volume and veracity of it and how she fucking well copes. I know how hard it can be to deal with but not on the scale she’s dealing with. And how difficult it can be sometimes to carry on, but because these are reasons why you must.

Some dickhead little cunt sent her a private message on her (open) FB page. It was vile and awful. So she made it public and revealed who he was. Some people defended his ‘right to privacy’ and decried Ford’s decision to delete and block his dickhead cunt friends who were bombarding her FB page with more vile shite.

This is my space, she said. You go ahead and have your own. I can block and delete what I like. YOU sent this to me. So stand by it in the light of the public glare.

The fact is that the men making these utterly horrific and abusive comments and threats are not sweaty, lonely, rejected, chronic masturbators that hide behind their computers and vent on women. They are educated, privileged private schoolboys. They are your friends, your neighbours, men you know and trust. They don’t air these views to you, in public under their real names, or to most people in their lives. I hope, because deep down they know these comments, threats, bullshit opinions are wrong.

If that is what they truly believe and want to fight for, then they should be ‘man enough’ to stand up and say them out loud. Not hide away making anonymous sexual threats because Ladeez Dare to Have Opinions, Yo.

It’s Fucking Obvious 101. I have nothing but respect for women like Ford who keep on, despite the hideous barrage of utter fuckedness they are on the receiving end of. Sometimes it gets you down. Sometimes you want to give up. Sometimes it’s just one shitty, shitty, horrible, awful threatening comment that derails you, rather than the very many of support – or at least those of reasoned argument and intellectual engagement.

I’m sad. But I thank the rainbow-loving-Jesus-unicorn-lord for people like Ford. I’ll keep tapping away here and on FB and on Twitter and doing freelance articles now I’m not on the books so much any more. But until men, actual, proper, good men #SomeMen! get on board with us, there’s only so much that can be done.

If real, reported incidents, comments, assaults, statistics, facts don’t move you, then congratulations, you’re a cunt. You’re not even a human being. And you give #SomeGoodMen (many of whom, I am lucky to know) a bad name, not us.

It’s hard to keep going and shooting shit down, but we have to. If Ford can do it, so can we. On blogs, on social media, among our friends and family, with people we know.

Fight the Good Fight. It’s worth it. It will be. For all people.

 

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Look! #SomeMen Get It!


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